what did you mean by that?

when people can't find a way to say what they mean,  many will use another approach to do so or not say it all.  There are reasons why they don't come out right out and clearly communicate what thought is in their head. Their afraid of the reaction, don't want to take responsibility for their own words, want to defend themselves and don't know how,  want to inflict harm by using smoke and mirrors, and so many other ways to run circles around you instead of directly coming to you. That is the biggest fear, coming to you, saying what issues I have about you. So instead, It's nice to use others tools, some chose, Passive/Aggressive, or complete avoidance.  That solves the problem you see, not  I don't have to address it all. You are longer in my life and I find a new you, people are now like phone, disposable, and we are pathetic and shallow weak minded individuals that cant face fear, if someone has an issue you communication is too much a challenge to say, you know " what did you mean by that? and can we discuss that,,, rather than other fear tools you use that keep on the disposable friends cycle!